The normalization of premarital sex in the media, the changing attitudes towards marriage, and the increasing emphasis on individualism have made the idea of waiting until marriage seem outdated and unrealistic. While some people believe that pre-marital sex is acceptable, others consider it immoral and sinful. However, the reality is that engaging in pre-marital sex can have serious consequences that can affect one's physical, emotional, and social well-being. In this article, we will discuss the various consequences of pre-marital sex and why it is essential to practice abstinence before marriage.
The Bible clearly teaches that sex is meant to be a sacred and exclusive union between a husband and wife.
1 Corinthians 7:2-3 says, "But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband."
Sex is a gift from God that is meant to be enjoyed within the context of marriage. Sex outside of marriage is considered a sin because it goes against God's plan and design for human sexuality. It also has consequences such as guilt, shame, and emotional pain, which can affect individuals and their relationships for years to come.
Sex is a Union Beyond the Physical
Often, sex is viewed just as a quick getaway to pleasure. The truth is that sex is one of the most intimate expressions of love. It is a physical, emotional, and spiritual bonding experience that is meant to be shared exclusively within the context of marriage. By reserving sex for marriage, God intended to protect individuals from the physical and emotional consequences of sexual activity outside of a committed relationship.
Picture this, when you stick two fabrics together with a strong glue and try to separate them, you end up with ripped fabrics. The same phenomenon applies to the situation of premarital sex. When you have sex with a person you are not married to, you are united with them. This has spiritual as well as emotional consequences.
1 Corinthians 6:16-20 says, "Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh." But whoever is united with the Lord is one with him in spirit. Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore, honor God with your bodies."
God Demands Purity
The Bible places a high value on sexual purity. In 1 Thessalonians 4:7, it says,
"For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness." This means that as Christians, we are called to live pure and holy lives, including in our sexual behavior. In 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, it states, "It is God's will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God."
Societally, the normalization of premarital sex can lead to a decrease in the value of marriage and the family unit. It can also contribute to the objectification of women. By valuing sexual purity, individuals and societies can reap the benefits of healthy and fulfilling relationships.
Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD)
Another significant physical consequence of pre-marital sex is the risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections (STIs). These infections are usually transmitted through sexual contact in various forms beside penetration and can have serious health consequences if left untreated. Some of the common STIs include chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, herpes, and HIV/AIDS.
Risk of Pregnancy
One of the most common consequences of pre-marital sex is an unwanted pregnancy. When two individuals engage in sexual intercourse without proper protection, there is a high chance of getting pregnant. The risk of pregnancy is present even when protection is used. An unplanned pregnancy can have a significant impact on the lives of the individuals involved, leading to stress, financial burden, and social stigma.
7 Christian ways to avoid premarital sex
Seek accountability and support from a trusted Christian mentor or community.
Pray regularly for strength and guidance in upholding your commitment to purity.
Memorize and meditate on Bible verses that reinforce the value of sexual purity, such as 1 Corinthians 6:18-20.
Attend church and participate in Christian activities that align with your values and help strengthen your faith.
Avoid media and entertainment that promote or normalize premarital sex.
Surround yourself with friends who share your commitment to purity and support your decision to wait until marriage.
Focus on building a strong emotional and spiritual connection with your partner, recognizing that true intimacy is about much more than just physical attraction.
Overcoming sexual temptations can be challenging, but with the power of the Holy Spirit and practical tips which we will discuss soon in the blogs to come, it is possible to maintain sexual purity and live a life that honors God.
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